Life is Hard

       Life is Hard

 

          I’ll prove it to you. I mean, logically, rhetorically; I don’t aspire to be the agent of any more pain or difficulty for you. If I have been in the past, maybe move on, this one won’t be better for that, probably.

          It’s just this, that some of the things that are our options in life are very hard things indeed. Still, options they are and they do get their share of hits, which is the proof I’m offering. If some of these things are possibly as good or better than our circumstances when the choice is required, then our situation is hard all around, and it means that quality of life before these hard choices – life at home for kids and teens, life without prospects for adults, etc. -  wasn’t so different.

          On a personal level, I was shocked when I saw some kids in my extended family running away from home and prostituting, and it was a part of the puzzle of my cause when I realized that homelessness and sexual slavery seemed to be a viable option to these kids over staying at home fighting with their parents and staying in school. Sure, teenagers are too stupid to be afraid, but the numbers are there. That isn’t our countries’ smallest industry by any means. List all the reasons you like, street life and prostitution is a real option in the minds of millions of North American teens. If they’re all just that stupid, then sure, teenagers are dumb –

-        But of course it’s not all of them, is it? Of course it happens to smart kids and wealthy kids too. I’m not saying all these teens are making an informed choice. I’m just saying that the hand of the free market has judged that in some percentage of teens, an attitude of ‘anything is better than this’ prevails. Teens are voting with their feet. They may be stupid and wrong, but we raised these idiots.

          Oops. Preaching aside, the point is, when that is an option, life must be hard.

          Other examples come to mind:

<!--[if !supportLists]-->-        <!--[endif]-->Battle, war, nuclear war. It’s a hard life that makes war such a regular option and where nuclear war can be seriously considered and planned for. Plus, like Churchill said, I’ll paraphrase, ‘of course there are worse things than war. Dishonour is worse than war. Slavery is worse than war.’ It’s a real option, which means peace is not, apparently, because if it were it would be no contest. Life is tough when peace is not even an option. On an individual level, soldiering is a hard, dangerous choice, and for many, it’s their last option among others that include homelessness, crime and or incarceration. For some, I imagine it’s the same as the teen choice above, it’s a way out of the nuclear home.

<!--[if !supportLists]-->-        <!--[endif]-->Suicide. Again, say what you want about their reasons and choices, the numbers are there. It becomes an option for far too many when their lives become intolerable, and it has a nasty way of working to become their only option. Of course, this was an easy one, every suicide has the aspect of an indictment. But still, when that is among your best options, and again, far too many . . .

<!--[if !supportLists]-->-        <!--[endif]-->Cheating. Lying. Stealing. Along with divorce, along with death by addictions, situations no-one wants from their youth. When you can live with a bad reputation, when being mistrusted is as good as it gets, that signifies a depressing choice at some point, the lesser of two particularly smelly evils.

          I guess I’ve said it. Really, for me, of course it’s about the runaway teens, about kids, and you probably know I see it as a fractal thing, that if big life, the life of nations sucks so hard that mutually assured destruction is an actual option, then that possibility derives from individual lives sucking so hard that military service is an option. When kids run away, to the streets or the army, they’re voting with their feet, against their parents and caregivers and maybe their judgment comes from their pre-verbal times, as it seems to in teens, but still.

          So I’m just trying to give that a voice, just saying, this is what ‘Life is Hard’ means to me. I don’t think it’s a rule, that life is hard, but it certainly is the present state of affairs.

 

Jeff

 

 

August 21, 2015

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Comments (44)

  1. wirelessguru1

    It is easier for some…and harder for others…

    August 21, 2015
  2. Bettymom

    I was feeling pretty good until I read this – unfortunately, you’re right.

    August 21, 2015
    1. wirelessguru1

      I AM still feeling pretty good…

      August 21, 2015
    2. Neighsayer

      Sorry, Hon. You know, my own mom was a Betty?

      August 22, 2015
      1. Bettymom

        There used to be lots of us. I think most were named after Betty Grable! I was named after a friend of my mom’s, the lady who introduced my parents to each other.

        August 22, 2015
        1. Neighsayer

          Yeah, Julia Elizabeth. She went back to Julie later in life, post-divorce and such.

          August 22, 2015
    3. Neighsayer

      I haven’t been following you just lately – I assume if you’re online that your old man is still with us, everything sort of OK?

      August 22, 2015
      1. Bettymom

        Yup, my old dude is still puttering! Everything is as okay as you could expect. We’re still doing all the things we used to do, only slower!!

        August 22, 2015
        1. Neighsayer

          good news. Have a good day, I’m hoping to get back to sleep, it’s not 5:00 yet here. I assume you’re cooking breakfast, milking the chickens or whatever . . . 7:00, 8:00?

          August 22, 2015
          1. Bettymom

            If breakfast gets cooked around here, I don’t cook it – the closest I might come is making brunch. It’s not good to let me cook early in the morning. I’ll stick to milking the chickens.

            August 22, 2015
  3. miss-ranty-pants

    Sometimes it is worse at home, and no one will believe you.

    August 22, 2015
    1. Neighsayer

      You know, I wasn’t even thinking about you when I writ this, but yeah, you’re a case in point, aren’t you?

      August 22, 2015
      1. scarletts_letters

        With my other pants on – I didn’t mean to sound accusatory, not all pros have had my start, but there is a lot that have. I don’t think the public have any idea how widespread abuse is and that’s not even plain old beating or verbal abuse. I really wish I’d been a boy.

        August 24, 2015
        1. Neighsayer

          fuck, – damn, I so wanna say Honey, or Sweetie or something! Believe me, it’d be in the right spirit – fuck, Scarlet, I felt that, that hurt me, let alone yourself or anyone else. Jesus H. . . .

          It’s sort of a test of a hypothesis isn’t it, to be able to use your model to reverse engineer something? Because I feel that I just sorta predicted the thing that you just sorta provided the data for, right?

          .

          thanks for sharing, ouch.

          August 24, 2015
          1. scarletts_letters

            Mate you are so waste here, mostly people here want to read memes, which they can barely get their little minds around, or talk about how deep they are to people who want to tell other people how deep they are so that those very people might say the same of them.
            I read in the same sentence a few days ago scientist and Nephalim – a Nephalim is apparently the offspring of a human and an angel, the world is fucked, and its just torture not being a moron.

            August 24, 2015
            1. scarletts_letters

              ^wasted, where is my crayons I needs them to exresserate my spelling!!!

              August 24, 2015
            2. Neighsayer

              a little less lonely for some with some few others around though

              August 24, 2015
            3. scarletts_letters

              It is, there are a few thinkers about, but this is a social media site, another place where narcissism gains users points

              August 24, 2015
            4. Neighsayer

              narcissism? I got a little o’ that. I guess that’s why I’m here. I do get read more elsewhere – coming up on 2,500 views on b4u since I made an enemy of that site a few months back and read in 63 or so countries on Wordpress. But no-one talks to me on Wordpress much, just a few loyal ones . . . I like the social aspect here, I guess . . .

              August 24, 2015
            5. scarletts_letters

              It’s human to have a lot of those traits, just not to a crazy degree. I really dislike forums it’s why I never joined b4u, I like to write, its nice to get feedback, if its more than lol or loved this, but I just love to hammer stuff out.
              2,500 views is big stuff on social media, wordpress is difficult – it takes serious networking, I can never get used to that, even though on my hissy ‘never coming back to thoughts’ I did ok there.
              But I also think its the nature of what I write, I do fairly high fat low nutrition stuff.

              August 24, 2015
            6. Neighsayer

              but it sure is tasty! Yeah, those guys at bfu weren’t the worst – somewhere between Hitler and Bill Cosby, I guess. Coulda been worse.

              August 24, 2015
            7. scarletts_letters

              Worse than a fascist genocidal peado? Jebrus! I never want to hang out in your hood!

              August 24, 2015
  4. Neighsayer

    Damnit! " . . . the streets or the army . . . " I’ll edit tomorrow.

    August 22, 2015
  5. Switzerland

    There’s horrible situations in our country that can be on par with third world countries but alot of people figure we’re so first world that our problems are nothing in comparison but that isn’t so, like you said, life is simply hard all over. Anywhere on the planet has good regions, bad regions, and do not go there regions. There’s neighborhoods in US that I would get attacked or killed for being white, there’s child homelessness and sex trafficing, there’s psychopaths that aren’t in custody yet. It’s all out there. I agree with you, life is hard and providing and easy life for children is worrisome to me, yes parents want to protect but having an easy life is a lie in this world. It’s circumstance, technology, wealth etc. that makes life “easy” and take those things away theyll be unfit to survive in this harsh world, like a lion cub never learning to hunt and just has their parents feed them till they die, I don’t think that happens too much. I’m glad you said this, I realize we don’t live under a dictatorship or in the middle of a genocide but it doesn’t make our problems something to just shrug off because we have running water. A friend of mine in highschool killed himself and it was so shocking. He had no signs, seemed happy, one day just found arms cut open not even a note, he was just having a real internal struggle and didn’t tell anyone, death was a better option for him. Wasn’t complaining or crying out for help by attempting suicide, he just wanted out and I’ll never forget that. Life is rarely easy, just less hard than others.

    August 27, 2015
    1. Neighsayer

      Eesh. Thanks. It’s a weird thing to have to try to prove, isn’t it? Like as long as anyone has it worse, then no-one has it bad or something.

      August 27, 2015
      1. Switzerland

        Some strange suffering contest no one really signed up for or somethin.

        August 27, 2015
        1. Neighsayer

          like

          August 27, 2015
        2. Neighsayer

          not what I was trying to say, not asking for a like. There’s no “like” button for comments, so sometimes I just type it

          August 27, 2015
          1. Switzerland

            Ha I like your profile picture, that know-it-all face or disapproving face is spot on haha

            August 27, 2015
            1. Neighsayer

              Ha. It say’s “Deal with it.” It’s me, though.

              August 28, 2015
          2. Switzerland

            Thats what it is ‘deal with it’. Yea I like it cause I figured it was you, not too many personal pics around here

            August 28, 2015
  6. Neighsayer

    can’t remember it, all I’m getting is ‘Consider Yourself,’ or ‘Life is Grand,’ which isn’t from Oliver . . . or the one from ’Annie . . . ’

    August 22, 2015
    1. Neighsayer

      fair enuff

      August 23, 2015
  7. miss-ranty-pants

    So you are from somalia?

    August 22, 2015
    1. wirelessguru1

      maam!?

      August 27, 2015
  8. Neighsayer

    it’s kind of the point, that these are logical proofs that life sucks in the First World hard enough to bring the most dire options into play – let alone how things are in the shittiest places.

    August 22, 2015
    1. Neighsayer

      oh, of course. You rejecting my case that it’s hard enough here? For many folks, maybe not all?

      August 23, 2015
      1. Neighsayer

        oh sure, weak, lazy. Mine sure are. They’re scary smart, though!

        August 24, 2015