Punishment helps to teach kids right from wrong - not.

 . . . everyone thinks that normal stuff. It's a silly myth if anyone thinks there is some huge group of people out there who thinks "aw, screw it, I'm just gonna let my kids do whatever the hell they want." Most people believe what you're saying,...

Nature VS Nurture

The answer to the nature-nurture arguments is very often nature, but I don’t see it’s less nurture because of that. It’s not an either/or thing: we have natures and we have a lot of nurturing to do, it’s not one or the other. As impressive as some...

The American Dream is over.

- and that is due to unfettered capitalism, where it’s capital that wins, every time, that’s what it means. Capital wins. Literally. In court. The principles of capitalism are directly opposed to any notion of the American Dream, directly opposed to...

Here's an oldie: from me, 20 years ago.

On Punishment . . .    We hear a lot of talk these days about abuse, therapy, your inner child, life as a grown child of alcoholics, and the like . . . while on the other hand, at that point in my life when I’m having kids and everyone around me...

Punishment is for animals

Although I’m sure Temple Grandin will disagree. But it’s definitely not for people. People – adults, anyway - can communicate. Even without a common language, people can communicate well enough that they shouldn’t have to resort to just hitting one...

He who is without Sin May Punish.

Punishment only counts as punishment when done by an authorized person. As it may apply to Christianity, who are the authorized persons? The purest version of the answer, of course, is God (Vengeance is mine, saith the Lord). Jesus, when placed in the...

Every Smack is a Humiliation-- A Manifesto by Alice Miller

Few insights gained in the last 20 years are so securely established as the realization that what we do to children when they are small, good things and bad things, will later form a part of their behavioral repertoire. Battered children will batter...

Christianity: the Revolution that Never Happened.

This is the revolution, intended, I think, as a revolution in Judaism, that didn't happen. You've heard it before, this below, from Matthew: Matthew 5 (King James Version) 38 Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth...

Bullying as Punishment

the world runs on authority, on force. The army, the police, schools, corporate hierarchies, parenting, parenting, parenting. Family structure. Punishment and discipline is a system by where we control unwanted behaviour by force, and punishment,...

The Hand that Rocks the Cradle Rules the World.

The ‘legitimate’ abuse that has a thousand names, punishment, correction, discipline, consequences, training, spanking, timeouts, quiet time, penance, detention, etc., this practice is done by nearly everyone. People of many races, religions,...

Original Sin

Mass-murderers like Charlie Manson and Andreas Brevik (spelling?) seem to think everyone is a psycho like them. They have it in common that all they thought they needed to do to start a race/faith war was to kill a few people, a few tens of people,...

The Normal Viewpoint

I'm going to use this chapter as a sort of a FAQ (Frequently Asked Questions) section. But first, a rant:   Believe me, folks, these things I have heard before, these are things most people believe. Hearing them from you is not going to change...

Give up the Power

Parents today are caught in a terrible bind. I hear it from young parents a lot. They want to be different from their parents, they all remember parental mistreatment, they all want to be nicer to their kids, they want to avoid the mistakes they see...

Love Looks like Love

People usually punish with the best of intentions. As children, we receive most of our punishments from those who love us. Of course, it’s those who love you that are interested in correcting you, who want you to grow up as a happy, healthy,...