Nature VS Nurture and Twin Studies

First, sorry for the first post, it’s gone. I’ve just learned something about ‘Link’ posts.   This isn’t the most comprehensive article about all the separated twin studies that have been done, but it’s new, and typical enough. Here’s an...

Damages of Punishment

The damages of abuse are well known. They come in many forms, forms that can be categorized in the following ways; these damages will be some or all of:   Physical   Emotional   Psychological   Cognitive   The damages of...

Freedom or Punishment – Make your Choice, America.

Regardless of where we think the current American Libertarian movement or, rather the Small Government movement, is coming from, regardless of its validity, there is going to be a choice to make: a culture of punishing, the Prison State, or liberty....

Love Flowing Backwards

It’s a sad thing, but a vicious cycle, and a real one, in many families: reverse flow.   In some families, and to some degree or other in many families, sad to say, it is the children who sacrifice, the children that spend their days protecting...

Don't Turn Your Back on your Childhood Self

When I was a kid, and still pretty young, I realized my parents were crazy.   There was a moment that I remember, although I'm sure it's not an isolated incident. We were in the car, going somewhere or coming back, all of us, me and my brother,...

Consequences, shmonsequences . . .

Change your ways, people, not your words, or not only your words. Consequences, discipline, 'cause and effect,' these are all words for punishing. If you're imposing any of these things, you're punishing . . . and yes, that's . . . bad. I am the...

Regarding “Boundaries”

“Boundaries” are a favourite buzzword for parents and parenting gurus alike. We all have ‘personal boundaries,’ of course, but ‘boundaries for kids’ aren’t the personal kind, or they aren’t all the personal kind. Kids are bound in more ways than that....

Fail at Controlling Your Kids

This is it, this is what I'm saying.   Not "control your kids without punishment," or "control your kids without physical punishment."   I'm not trying to tell anyone that is is possible to control your kids without punishment.   ...

Negative Effects on Cognitive Development

I see rewards and punishments as very detrimental to learning about the real world. I think the kids minds are not properly developed by the adults always substituting artificial effects for real world effects that would have had an actual...

Regarding the Online talk about Bullying

There was a post on here recently, about a bullying incident, I think it was one that went viral, about a boy who was being bullied for bringing his My Little Pony backpack to school and the school basically told his mother he was asking for it, and...

Hundredth Monkey Time

Word is getting around about corporal punishment. The science is coming in.   That’s a good thing, I’m not complaining. Check out these Time articles, brought to my attention by Morgan - on Wordpress, she’s here:   ...

Do Animals Punish?

I don’t think they do. I think punishing is the human difference, the human genius - as well as the human madness.   I think animals teach their children by example.   People have told me that animals punish, that that’s what they’re doing...

It's not Easy, Letting Your Kids do Whatever They Want

It’s what I was trying to say with the title – really, letting them do whatever they want, despite the way the punishers try to frame it – IS NOT EASY. And that’s not why I do it, or anyone should do it. It’s doing it the hard way, the long way, and...

We never Punished, and nothing Bad Happened.

I've got two teenage girls, 16 and 19. We never punished them for anything. Well, after the older one lost her iPod by leaving it in a locker with no lock during gym class at school, and then borrowed her sister's and lost it by leaving it in a...

Selling Harm

Addiction is a strange thing. I used to say, getting high, getting drunk – that I can understand, but gambling? Spending all your money to feel the high from heroin, or from weed, you’re getting something, at least some relief from all those...