Parenting, Control, and What is Required to Have it

This is part of a conversation on WP blog, a real click-bait post:   http://theeditorsjournal.wordpress.com/2014/10/10/is-smacking-a-child-acceptable/   and here's the comment of mine that I felt I had to keep on something of my own:  ...

More than Not Punishing

It all starts with not punishing – I don’t mean not spanking, not punishing corporally, I mean not punishing at all. I mean, we said “no” a lot, we distracted, even physically restrained our toddlers sometimes, but punished? (MOM: I don’t remember...

Our end of the Deal, Part #2 - Teachers

We have got to stop using physical means on our babies and toddlers, because we’re setting them up to fail in school.   We’re moving in the right direction in terms of corporal punishment, specifically, it’s being stopped in the school systems,...

Why The Fight against Corporal Punishment Fails

 I’ve said it many times, so the waiver here will be brief: of course I’m against corporal punishment. The science is in, it is indistinguishable from abuse psychologically, except where there is a difference in the degree of it, and except that the...

Corporal Punishment is not the Whole Story

A few words about corporal punishment before I get into something new on the subject. Bear with me. I promise, love it or hate it, I won’t bore you.   There’s been a lot of talk again lately, prompted by the Adrian Peterson story and it’s all...

Why Do I Stay? The Hopelessness of Popular Issues

I’m not bitter. Well, OK, I’m a little bitter.   In my day job, as an uneducated working man, I have customers all over town and one customer in particular that is an hour’s drive away from home, an hour and ten minutes from my office, and I...

It All Starts when We Punish our Kids, #5

It all starts when we punish our kids.   What “all starts?”   Well . . . 1. Rape.   First and foremost, rape is violence, so for that aspect of it, see Part #2.   Second, rape is misogyny, at least man-on-woman rape is. That is...

It All Starts when We Punish our Kids, #4

It all starts when we punish our kids.     What “all starts?” Well . . .     <!--[if !supportLists]-->4.     <!--[endif]-->Depression.     The damages from abuse are many, but they’re becoming well known. I’ve...

Curing Crime

          I know, no-one dreams of actually curing crime, not adults, not really. It’s just one of the fantasies we teach our kids, that anyone is actually fighting some abstraction called “crime,” be it fictional heroes and super-heroes, or the real,...

When Bad Things Happen to Good People

          Of course, this is a question that comes up a lot; my daughter just attended a funeral for a little girl who had cancer and suffered sickness and pain for most of her four year life. Many of the family and relatives were Christian, and...

To Conflate or not to Equate

            In debate, and especially in internet debate due to the open, egalitarian nature of the web, conflation is a regular problem, and a constant issue, where even the ubiquitous strawman argument has to take second place in the hierarchy of...

It All Starts when We Punish our Kids, #3

It all starts when we punish our kids.   What “all starts?” Well . . .     3.     Misogyny.   First of all, violence breeds violence and the received violence in childhood punishments is the main root of violence generally (see...

It All Starts when We Punish our Kids, #2

It all starts when we punish our kids.   What “all starts?” Well . . .   2.     Violence.   This hasn’t changed, despite what we like to think: punishment is violence. All punishment is ultimately physical. Even if in a particular...

It All Starts when We Punish our Kids, #1

It all starts when we punish our kids.   What “all starts?” Well . . .   1.     Religion.   Our children, human children are born helpless, can’t even lift their heads, can’t so much as roll over, so our babies’ first experience of...

Murderous Madmen and Their Victim Groups

Posted in a shorter form on May 27, 2014 A bunch of girls didn’t do what he wanted, so he set out to hurt a bunch of girls and teach them all a lesson. Folks, yes that is misogyny, yes it is gun violence, but mainly   IT IS PUNISHMENT.  ...

Irony: when a Deterrent Becomes a Punishment

            What a different world we would have if deterrents, one of the central tenets of punishment, actually worked like it was supposed to. But let’s face facts: they don’t, at least not often enough, not often enough that the damages of the...

A Revolution in Nature VS Nurture, Part One

It has come to be understood that without some form of Nurture there can be no Nature; that an organism’s genetic coding develops in interaction with the environment, and there is no “normal” or neutral environment. Eliminate the environment and you...

A Revolution in Nature VS Nurture, Part Two

Here’s a page with info about the first and most famous of the twin studies:   http://www.intropsych.com/ch11_personality/bouchards_twin_research.html   So with this idea, that it takes genetics AND environment to produce an organism, and...

State Funded Abuse – Punishments and Rewards in Prison

Abuse – well, corporal punishment – well, punishment - actually causes misbehaviour in children and crime and violence in adults, rather than curing these things. With children, it’s not news, I think that the exercise of punishment actually models...