The Carrot and the Stick - The Irony of Deterrents Part #5

          This series is intended to clarify the role and the efficacy of our use of deterrents, both in our households as a parenting tool and in society as a major premise upon which we have based our approach to criminal justice. Here’s the rest of...

#antiparenting

                #antiparenting             It’s not personal, Folks, but I think I have to separate myself, I think I have to stop hoping that people might ever find me by searching for “parenting.” You’ll find a lot of people, and a lot of...

A Conflicted Society, Part #4 – Rape, Part #2

       OK, this should be a challenge. Delusional as I may be, even I don’t expect we’re going to get to the bottom of this today. All journeys begin with a single step, though, so off we go!   Just as I don’t really know why I have to be one of...

A Conflicted Society, Part #4 – Rape, Part #2

       OK, this should be a challenge. Delusional as I may be, even I don’t expect we’re going to get to the bottom of this today. All journeys begin with a single step, though, so off we go!   Just as I don’t really know why I have to be one of...

One of Parenting’s Worst Myths

          Let me ask anyone reading this - do you actually know ANYBODY who doesn't try to discipline their kids? Anybody who doesn't believe in discipline, anybody who says "Oh, I don't care how my kids behave. Let the police worry about it!"   ...

New and Improved: A Show of Strength

           . . . are short term, things, of course, is where I’m going. It was never my plan, in raising my kids. We’re playing the long game. We are traitors and pariahs in the world of breeding couples, my wife and I; if you’re disciplining your...

A Conflicted Society, Part #3 – Rape

There’s this great, thinking-outside-the-box bit Louis C.K. did at least once, I saw it in the beginning stand-up bit on one episode of his TV show, “Louie,” where he aligns perfectly with me in the idea that punishing can backfire badly. I’ll...

It All Starts when We Punish our Kids, #6

It all starts when we punish our kids.   What “all starts?” Well . . .    6.   Racism.   Childhood punishments are where we first hear talk about “the other,” about “those kinds of people,” about Good People and Bad People.   ...

A Conflicted Society – the Dreamer, Part #2

My family was always involved peripherally or otherwise, in psychology. My mother was a great reader, we always had copies of “Psycho-cybernetics,” “How to Win Friends and Influence People” and such around the house, “I’m OK, You’re OK” – self-help...

A Conflicted Society – the Dreamer, Part #1

          I’m not special. I’m no genius (no shit, Sherlock!), nobody would describe me as ‘brilliant’ or ‘visionary’ - quite the opposite. I mean, I don’t expect I’ll be noticed or remembered for my ideas. I may never achieve my first big dream, of...

A Conflicted Society – Police Brutality

       Violence is a problem, right? No? Depends? Depends on who’s doing it and why, the ends justify the means, greater good and whatnot? Wait a minute, I need to start again. An attitude like that will get you nowhere.             Deep breath,...

The Irony of Deterrents, Part #3

‘Law and Order’ types – Republicans, Conservatives – and punishing parents, these folks who advocate for deterrents and punishments, they like to say how they’re fixing things, how they’re “modifying behaviour” and setting children and criminals...

The Islamic State Just Doesn't Get It.

Well, it seems those damned Muslims in Iraq and Syria are misbehaving again. And they’re getting worse! WTF is the matter with those people? We’ve already bombed the crap out of them at least twice, and still they insist on their revelatory...

Psychiatric Medications - submitted for your approval

I'd have to guess that medication for mental and emotional issues indicates victory on the part of the "Nature" (over Nurture) crowd, which suggests a denial of the power of human interactions to cause our problems. Which, ironically, goes to a denial...

THOSE Kinds of Parents

Everything is fine.    I mean if we just keep doing what we’re doing, everything will be fine. Everything will be fine sometime very soon . . . well it would be, if it weren’t for those people. I mean you and I, we were taught respect, we know...

Law and Order – the Irony of Deterrents, Part 2

I’ve just re-read my first post by that name, and I couldn’t help but notice that it’s terrible. So this isn’t going to be so much ‘Part 2’ as version 2.0. Steven Pinker keeps Tweeting about how writers need to remember that they’re the ones talking,...