The Easy Route

          Here’s an interesting article:   https://hbr.org/2015/05/influence-people-by-leveraging-the-brains-laziness?utm_source=Socialflow&utm_medium=Tweet&utm_campaign=Socialflow   - And here's the text:   INFLUENCE ...

Domestic Violence among the Agents of Authority

Here’s a popular recent article from Addictinginfo:   http://www.addictinginfo.org/2015/09/11/you-think-football-players-have-a-domestic-violence-problem-cops-are-three-times-worse/   -        And here’s the text:   You Think...

Getting Carried Away – Punishment Psychosis

       Getting Carried Away – Punishment Psychosis             I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: these mass shooters are punishing their victims.             It’s NOT a new thing, and it’s not remotely anything different than what...

Life is Hard

       Life is Hard             I’ll prove it to you. I mean, logically, rhetorically; I don’t aspire to be the agent of any more pain or difficulty for you. If I have been in the past, maybe move on, this one won’t be better for that, probably....

It All Starts when We Punish our Kids, #8

           It all starts when we punish our kids.           What “all starts?” Well . . .           8. Domestic Violence.           I know, I`ve already talked about violence generally (part 2), as well as misogyny (part 3) and rape (part 5)...

Authority is the Problem, Part #2

       Authority is the Problem, Part #2          Here’s Part #1: http://abusewithanexcuse.com/2015/01/08/authority-is-the-problem/           although it’s not really related . . .             Really this Sandra Bland thing, feels...

Shit Flows Downhill

       Shit Flows Downhill              . . . and payday’s Friday, the plumber’s knowledge base, as we boys mansplain it to each other. (Wow. Word had no comment for that word! Did Microsoft buy the Urban Dictionary?) Of course, I’m not here to...

Forget Forgiveness

       Forget Forgiveness               Wait, wait, hear me out a bit. Believe me, I know the generally accepted narrative: you can’t hold anger in your heart, you have to let it go, all of that. I even accept that our worst tormentors...

Nature VS Nurture – Traits

       Nature VS Nurture – Traits             I’m not saying that we are born with blank slates; that would be my first assumption too at this point in the conversation if I were listening rather than speaking, but no. Clearly, if our slates...

Punishment is a Crime

       Punishment is a Crime             It’s Sunday morning, the wife and I, over fifty, don’t sleep in past seven o’clock anymore so we’re up, each of us at our computers. On Twitter, I see, a Dr. Roger D. Jones has added one of my blog posts...

Lost Causes - Picking Punishment Apart

          What a long, weird trip it’s been.           I’m not sure I’m going to be able to express this properly, the strangeness around my effort to change the world, but I’ll try.           I’d like to find some common ground and some...

Don’t We Think Our Parents Did their Best?

       Don’t We Think Our Parents Did their Best?             Kids nowadays got no respect.             They’re out there right now, whining about their pasts and blaming their parents, like their parents were supposed to know better or...

Our Parents Did Their Best, Didn’t They?

       Our Parents Did Their Best, Didn’t They?             Our parents did their best, right?             This is not your usual parenting blog, and ‘yes’ is not going to be at the top of my list of relevant answers. If you’re looking for...

A Conflicted Society - Cognitive Specialization

       Cognitive Specialization             A search of my blog for the character strings “cognitive damage”, “and cognitive “, or just “cognitive” will produce results pretty consistently. It’s a central tenet of mine, of course:   ...

My Battle

My Battle   (That properly dead and gone swine can’t own those two words forever, can he? 10,000,000 lives AND an important pair of words taken out of circulation forever? No. Hell, no. We can’t get the lives back, but we can damned sure reclaim...

Don’t Believe Me! “Abuse” VS “abuse”

       Seriously.             First of all, WhoTF am I?             Actually, when you’re nobody – like me – of course you’re staunchly opposed to the logical fallacy we call ‘appeal to authority.’ Clearly, if authority is a prerequisite...

Punishment Hurts in Non-Physical Ways

            First, here’s a few posts of mine on why all punishment is dependent on physical means:   http://abusewithanexcuse.com/2014/09/18/corporal-punishment-is-not-the-whole-story/   ...

All Punishments are Physical

  All Punishments are Physical             Punishments are not voluntary. Punishments are unpleasantnesses that are forced upon a person by an authorized person, in order to convince him to change his behaviour; if an action is not all of...

A conflicted Society – Psychology VS Punishment

A conflicted Society – Psychology VS Punishment             A swat is good for a kid, teaches ‘em right from wrong. This has been accepted wisdom for many, many folks for a very long period of time: punishments teach.             Abuse...